Concept:
A reflexive relation on a 3-element set must contain:
\[
(1,1),(2,2),(3,3)
\]
Transitivity restricts how extra ordered pairs can be added, since inclusion of certain pairs forces closure.
Step 1: Start with reflexive base set.
\[
R_0=\{(1,1),(2,2),(3,3)\}
\]
So initial size = 3.
Step 2: Apply constraints.
We must include (1,2), so:
\[
R=\{(1,1),(2,2),(3,3),(1,2)\} \cup \text{possible extra pairs}
\]
Maximum size allowed = 6, so at most 2 more pairs can be added.
Step 3: Check transitivity restrictions.
If (1,2) is included, then:
- (2,1) cannot be included (would violate non-symmetry requirement)
- Any addition like (2,3) or (1,3) must preserve closure
Systematic checking of all valid closures gives only limited consistent structures.
Step 4: Count valid relations.
After enumerating all transitive closures under given constraints, total valid relations =
\[
\boxed{6}
\]